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Raising Riley,
My Enigma

A raw, unfiltered memoir and practical guide for anyone raising a special needs child — parents, therapists, teachers, and caregivers alike. Written from lived experience with Autism, ADHD, DMDD, anxiety, and depression.

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Raising Riley, My Enigma — paperback by Kristen Durham, photographed with crayons and a coffee mug

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From the Book

"Riley has been my mirror, my trial, and my joy. And in him, I've discovered a new kind of strength—one that bends but never breaks."

— Kristen Durham

Vivid abstract illustration of a child's eye filled with color and symbols, evoking neurodivergent perception

About the Book

A lived-experience memoir for the parents nobody warned.

When Riley began showing signs of neurodivergence at age three, his mother was thrust into a fragmented system of complex labels, conflicting guidance, and unanswered questions. What followed was a near decade-long journey of advocacy — navigating therapies, schools, medical decisions, and the emotional weight that comes with raising a neurodivergent child.

Spanning Riley's early childhood through pre-adolescence, Raising Riley, My Enigma is both a memoir and a guide for anyone walking the special-needs parenting path. Whether you are a parent just receiving a diagnosis, a therapist seeking ground-level perspective, a teacher working to understand your students, or a caregiver searching for solidarity — this book was written with you in mind.

It blends raw, honest storytelling with practical, hard-earned insight for newly diagnosed parents, long-term caregivers, educators, therapists, and professionals alike — offering perspectives that can't be found in textbooks, only through lived experience.

At its heart, this is a story of resilience, fierce love, and the determination to show up again and again when the path forward feels uncertain. If you are new to this journey, this book is a hand reaching back for yours.

Written For You

A guide for parents, therapists, teachers, and caregivers — you are seen here.

Autism

Sensory worlds, communication, and the gift of difference.

ADHD

Movement, focus, and parenting the beautifully relentless mind.

DMDD

Riding the storms of disruptive mood dysregulation together.

Anxiety

Holding space when the worry shows up uninvited.

Depression

Tenderness for the dark days, in our children and ourselves.

Inside the Book

Thirty chapters. One steady voice beside you.

From the first overwhelming diagnosis to the quiet, hard-won confidence of an unscripted journey — each chapter meets you wherever you are tonight.

  1. 01The Learning Curve
  2. 02So, What Are These Diagnoses Anyway?
  3. 03ESA / Service Animals and Your Child's Rights
  4. 04Building Confidence and Self-Esteem in Our Children
  5. 05Strength Forged in Uncertainty
  6. 06A Child's Perspective
  7. 07Finding the Magic Within
  8. 08When You Feel Disconnected from Your Special Needs Child
  9. 09When Hard Times Become Lessons
  10. 10Hope in an Unscripted Journey
  11. 11The Things That Keep Us Up at Night
  12. 12What Kind of Parent Do You Want to Be?
  13. …plus the Appendix: The Special Needs Parenting Toolkit.
Kristen Durham resting cheek-to-cheek with her son Riley in soft window light

The Author

Kristen Durham

Kristen is a mother, advocate, and writer who turned the hardest chapters of her life into a companion for other parents walking the same road. Her son Riley — diagnosed with autism, ADHD, DMDD, anxiety, and depression — is her greatest teacher and her favorite person.

"Out of all the things I have done in my life, I know you are the one thing I got right."

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Bring Raising Riley home.

Available in hardcover, paperback, ebook, and audiobook — in English, Spanish, Italian, German, and more. Find it on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Walmart, and 100+ platforms worldwide.

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